In this episode Neil along with his co-host Robin, respond to a woman concerned about her living situation with her partner and his young adult daughter.  The daughter is not working or going to school and has chased away other of her father’s girlfriends.

Today we’re hearing from Katy from Louisville, KY who writes:

I have moved in with my boyfriend and his 21-year-old adult daughter who doesn’t work, leave the house or have any ambition. She expects her dad to serve her, entertain her and give her 100% of his attention. She is determined to drive me away (as she has other girlfriends) to have her dad to herself and live at home forever. When he pushes the issue of independence, moving out etc. she threatens suicide. She verbally abuses me in hopes I will leave. What to do? How do I help my boyfriend see that even if I didn’t exist, he still needs to push her to be an adult?

Neil and Robin discuss the phenomenon of pathological enmeshment, what it is, where it comes from, and what to do about it.