Do you find yourself giving in to your teenage son or daughter a bit too often, simply because he or she is a better arguer than you are? Here’s what to do.
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Your Teenager Is Not a Problem to Be Solved!
The last thing we want to do for our teens is to make their problems our own. Instead, help them to identify and develop solutions to their own problems.
Continue readingHave a Problem? Need a Solution? Ask a Teenager!
When we have faith in our sons and daughters, we empower them to address serious issues and solve problems.
Continue readingReversing the Toxic Triangle with Your Spouse & Teen
Parents need to support each other, yet they can’t support negative treatment of their child or teen. This leads to what I call the “toxic triangle.”
Continue readingThe Relief, Frustration & Opportunities of Summer
Given that adulthood is coming up quickly, adolescence should be seen as the time to learn how to set goals, make plans, and execute against those plans.
Continue readingWhat if Neither Parent Is Comfortable Enforcing Limits?
Not all Control Battles are loud and angry… they can be soft and supportive, too. When neither parent enforces limits, I call that Double Softy Syndrome.
Continue readingIs Your Family “Pond” Healthy?
Families are social ecologies, and just like biological ones, they resist change both outside and within. And we call this resistance to change homeostasis.
Continue readingDo You Suffer from “Nice Guy” Syndrome?
As a child, Martin had a strict father who would abuse and berate anyone he felt was out of line. And so he vowed to be a “Nice Guy” with his own kids…
Continue readingWhat Causes Good Students to Fall Behind & Play Catch-Up
Many kids start school strong only to fall behind and have to play catch-up, often with a big push at the end of the semester… basically, right around now.
Continue readingWhat to Do When Your Great Kid Displays Dark Depression
Meet Emma. Emma began avoiding social activities, dropped piano lessons, and started producing dark art and poetry. Her parents weren’t sure what to do next.
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